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the archetypes attend a funeral
“Dad, get to Andy’s house right way!”
“Why?”
“I don’t know, but I think it is going to be bad!”
Life can make some sudden turns and twists. One of the worst in life is the death of a child. Parents should not have to bury their children. That is not the order of life and death. In this book you will read about the grief and trauma that losing a child can bring to a father. That type of trauma is magnified when the death is caused by mental illness that ends in a son taking his own life. How does one respond to such a tragic event? The Archetypes Attend a Funeral is one father’s story of how he is navigating the turbulent waters of the Ocean of Grief. Using the language of archetypal imprints and his faith, this father will introduce you to nautical markers he is using to carry him through the never-ending beating of trauma and the constant waves of grief.
David has spent the last 35 years writing about, caring for, speaking to, and providing tools to leaders and followers who are navigating their own struggles, conflicts, and trauma. He has not only studied these topics, but he has also experienced his own traumatic events to draw both knowledge and empathy. Having written four books on archetypal theory, he never imagined he would be writing a fifth book applying that knowledge to grief caused by his son’s suicide. This event, however, only deepened his faith and his understanding of the power of archetypes in one’s life. He is praying these brief words can navigate you through grief you are experiencing, and/or prepare you to help others do so, as well.
Ecclesiastes 3:4 (ESV)
A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn, and a time to dance;
just middle manager
Just Middle Manager is traveling to the celestial city of influence to be renamed Next Great Leader. But what is a great leader? Is there one style of leadership or many? These questions and many more weigh on both Just Middle Managers back and his heart as he sets out to follow his dream. Just Middle Manager is the story every leader should read, bringing to life the archetypes of Carl Jung into the real world of leadership style. Just Middle Manager is brought face-to-face with typical leader archetypes like ruler and warrior but also discovers nuggets of truth from the lesser known destroyer, lover, and orphan. Reading this enchanting fable that is more than just another boring business book will challenge you: Just Middle Manager or Next Great Leader?
What other leaders* are saying about Just Middle Manager: Next Great Leader:
Leader Innocent—Provides leadership hope
Leader Orphan—Words warning leaders
Leader Warrior—Provides discipline for leaders
Leader Caregiver—Helps leaders
Leader Seeker—A great adventure for all leaders
Leader Lover—A leadership book to embrace
Leader Destroyer—Teaches leaders how to let go
Leader Creator—Inspires leaders to be creative
Leader Ruler—Well-organized thoughts for leaders
Leader Magician—Transforming words for leaders
Leader Sage—Nuggets of wisdom for leaders
Leader Jester—A great and fun story for leaders
*Not familiar with these twelve leaders? Allow them to introduce themselves through the story of Just Middle Manager: Next Great Leader. When you finish, you may find one or two of them may actually be you!
the archetypes and the drama of change
Any change in a person’s life or an organization is a story. And, of course, like a story, there must be characters-actors. Some actors in the story of change are heroes. Some are villains. Some are key actors and have powerful and influential roles in the change narrative. Others have bit roles; they seem insignificant and less important. Each person in the change dialogue, however, will tell the story over and over. Generations later will give an account of “remember when we had to change that.” Sometimes the story is a good story. Often it is a bad story. This book is a guidebook, a script, to help assure we have more purposeful actors creating more positive stories of change. Those successful stories would replace what we often hear-negative narratives of failed and incomplete ventures.
Simply stated, these negative narratives are seldom pretty. Those telling the story will tell their version of the events. They will speak of everyone’s part and how so and so tried to roadblock the change. They will speak of the fellow who tried to change everyone’s attitude. They will tell the story of the character who tried to legislate the change and almost created an insurrection. They will speak of all the roles. They will seldom speak of their own role, however. Depending on how the change unfolded, they may pretend to be in the audience of change, simply watching and evaluating each act in the drama of change. But everyone knows they had a role as well. This book is a guidebook to identify the roles… everyone’s role. Those roles can be characterized as archetypes. This book is a guidebook to identify the archetypal roles that are played and must be played during the change process.
trust!
The word trust is, perhaps, the most important word in leadership, organizational culture, and interpersonal relationships. We go to school to learn to be educators, doctors, mechanics, skilled tradespersons, scientists, and scores of other degreed and non-degreed occupations and skills. It is our hope to be proficient in our fields. Yet, in all those hours of learning, the average employee or leader has probably had little, if any, formal training on how to foster and develop, and/or repair and rebuild trust. That is a dangerous scenario.
TRUST! Using Archetypal Language to Repair Broken Trust is a book to equip the reader with skills on using intentional language to create trust between leaders and followers, colleagues or anyone we work with on a day-to-day basis, especially after trust has been dented, diminished, or destroyed. If we care about building a culture of trust, we must destroy our old frameworks and create new paradigms.
After reading this book, the reader will have specific strategies and structures to employ in their communications, which is the first step toward restoring trust. Communication is almost always a topic with regard to building and/or restoring trust, but it is often explained in broad terms and redundant platitudes.
In this book, we will look at the power of using specific adjectives and/or adverbs in our communication to build and transform trust. The book is a journey to discover word choices based upon the specific word bank we hear in the narratives of those with whom we are looking to foster enjoyable trust. (Hold on, even the words used in this paragraph will determine if you trust the contents of the book to turn the first page.)
gap analysis
Years ago, David was sent on a journey, but not of his own choosing or making. A broken marriage would end one career as a church pastor, but by God’s grace, it would also open the door to another.
Executive leadership coaching was not on David’s life plan, but thirty years later, after hundreds of one-on-one coaching sessions and thousands of hours of learning more, it has changed that life plan. Since that devastating turn in the road, David has not only crafted a successful leadership coaching business but has enjoyed every minute of it. Why? Because it has fulfilled the purpose of his life. Written on the wall of his office, it reads:
To be available, to provide tools, to equip leaders, to do good to the glory of my God.
David has been blessed with a passion for transforming the lives of those he meets, especially those who lead others. Hulings & Associates started out as a business but has turned into a calling. Along with some amazing associates, David looks to find a way to equip leaders to get from point A to point B. This is why he refers to himself as a leadership coach.
The etymology of coach is that of a buggy, which was created to take you from where you are to where you want to go. Whether he is speaking, writing books and/or training modules, designing individualized leadership tools, or conducting one-on-one coaching sessions, David’s desire is to make sure clients and organizations archive their desired ends and reach their planned destinations.
